Exercise proper hug etiquette when sharing hugs.

 Proper Hug Etiquette

also known as

The Rules to Safe Hugging

1. Always respect another person's space. 

Not everyone is a hugger.  There are religious beliefs, cultural beliefs and life experiences that make some folks, what I refer to as "touch shy". Unfortunately you can't tell by looking at someone, what their background is, so being respectful is first and foremost in Proper Hug Etiquette.

 2. Always ask permission when sharing a hug.

 "Would you like a hug?"  "May I give you a hug?" My all time favorite question, "Have you had all your hugs today?"  You will be amazed how many people will welcome the hug.  Never take it personal if someone refuses a hug.  I like to respond with, "That' okay, I'll save you one for next time!" 

3. Know the difference between a warm, friendly hug and a passionate embrace and hug accordingly.

Be appropriate and you establish a safe place to share hugs.

4. A hug is a gentle embrace, not the Heimlich Manuever.

There is nothing worse than being hugged by someone who crushes you while they're giving you a  hug.  And though "patting" is good, slapping is definitely to be avoided.  If someone slaps you while sharing a hug, step back, as that is usually really loud body language that says, "I don't want to reject your hug, but I'm uncomfortable".

5. Be "in the hug", don't just go through the motion. 

To me there is nothing worse than being on the receiving end of an insincere hug.  You've been there, in the midst of a hug and the person's attention is already across the room - you feel it  and it doesn't feel good.   On the other hand, there is nothing more satisfying than sharing a hug, that simple gesture and feeling the deep and profound connection with another individual.  It's a wonderful experience.

Today we just can't be too be careful when it comes to "touching people".  There are so many rules and regulations all based on the belief that it will keep us "safe".  In my humble opinion all its done is instill fear and suspicion and we have become touch deprived. 

Keeping with my goal to increase hug abundance on the planet, I encourage all huggers to practice and exercise Proper Hug Etiquette also knows as the Rules to Safe Hugging.  Follow these guidelines and you will have no problem filling your daily hug prescription.

Hugs to you,

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